“Skeeter wants to interview Aibileen, Minny and a dozen other maids so she can write her book from their perspective. Inexplicably, the maids consent to the interviews, the book is written, the black women are given voice, the white women of Jackson are scandalized, Skeeter gets a big editing job in New York, and everyone lives happily ever after. Oh, except that Aibileen is fired from her job, and all the other maids experience untold repercussions and humiliations — untold because the movie doesn’t tell them. In fact, the film ends on a falsely uplifting note, with Aibileen claiming to feel liberated after being fired while Skeeter plans to go shopping with her mother for a new wardrobe before starting her big new job in New York. Aibileen is now an unemployed maid, Skeeter is moving forward in her life of white privilege — and the filmmakers expect viewers to feel good about this. The problem is, many white viewers will.”—Review: “The Help,” a feel-good movie for white people | ArtsCriticATL.com (via robot-heart-politics)
Yeah, a diamond-studded tour of Spain would put us in a pretty accommodating mood, too.
Quick everyone! Get your abortions now! This is a limited time offer! God is a busy man and can only spare these 6 days before he has to go back to hating homosexuals (and they don’t get their week of forgiveness till november).
as a filler because i got my basic english credits out of the way in high school. i am going to have to read a lot of african american literature. i am in no way racist. and i think that writing about what defines you as a person and being in touch with your roots are great things. but to be completely honest, i really couldnt care less about reading about someone else’s oppression. i do not feel that just because a book was written about slavery or by a slave or by the grandchild of a slave that that book should be declared a “classic.” let’s be real here, to me and probably all of my middle class white classmates, reading about someone that went through that oppression is something that we cannot relate to or appreciate. stick an oprah booklist stamp on it, shit’s done.
If you’re not racist then how about you stop saying racist shit?
“But in data we have recently collected, the Tea Party ranks lower than any of the 23 other groups we asked about — lower than both Republicans and Democrats. It is even less popular than much maligned groups like “atheists” and “Muslims.” Interestingly, one group that approaches it in unpopularity is the Christian Right.”—Crashing the Tea Party - NYTimes.com (via robot-heart-politics)
“Oh boy, the Vatican, no doubt patting itself on the back for being so generous to the filthy sluts of the world, has set up a six-day event in Madrid where ladies who’ve had abortions can come and confess in order to escape the automatic excommunication they otherwise would get. The reports don’t indicate if the Vatican is generously offering the same thing to murderers, rapists, or priests who molest children only to get transferred to a new parish where there’s fresh young people who haven’t learned to fear you yet, but that’s probably because none of those people are subject to the dogged excommunications of women who let penises near their vaginas for reasons other than producing more hands that can put money in the collection plate. Hey, don’t judge! They have to keep funding these $87-million (the estimated cost of the Pope’s trip to Madrid) Pope excursions, you know.”—
The amount of head shaking, eye roll inducing hypocrisy that comes out of the Catholic Church is just mind boggling. Honestly, I’m surprised the Pope hasn’t declared it a miracle that anyone puts up with this institution anymore.
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"The suit, filed July 5, alleges when the girl — a special education student — told officials about the harassment, assault and rape that occurred during the 2008-09 school year, they told her they did not believe her. She recanted.
The suit also alleges that, without seeking her mother’s permission, school officials forced the girl to write a letter of apology to the boy and personally deliver it to him. She was then expelled for the rest of the 2008-2009 school year and referred to juvenile authorities for filing a false report.
"School Officials, although mandatory reporters under Missouri’s Child Abuse Reporting Law, failed to report [the girl’s] complaints to the Division of Family Services or to Greene County Juvenile Authorities," the suit says.
In 2009-10, the girl was allowed back in school, and the boy continued to harass and assault her, the suit says. She did not tell school officials because she was afraid she would be accused of lying and kicked out of school.
In February 2010, the boy allegedly forcibly raped the girl again, this time in the back of the school library. While school officials allegedly expressed skepticism of the girl, her mother took her to the Child Advocacy Center and an exam showed a sexual assault had occurred. DNA in semen found on the girl matched the DNA of the boy she accused, the suit says.
Despite the finding of the Advocacy Center, the school suspended the girl for disrespectful conduct and public display of affection, the suit says.”
The title alone was enough for me to know to stay away. The synopsis confirmed that I had made the right decision: A young southern white woman with dreams of becoming a writer comes home from college and upon hearing the news that her mammy has abruptly left Mississippi for Chicago, realizes that black maids are treated differently from white people and thusly decides to write about them from their perspective. This, folks, is a classic case of cinematic enwhitlement…and exactly how Hollywood–and the rest of America–addresses race: A well-meaning (often southern) and heretofore racially oblivious (shall we say color-blind?) white person randomly discovers that the Negro they love most (and by extension other black people) is treated “differently,” becomes tragically affected by the epiphany, heroically takes up the cause (on a micro or macro level), and gets some Colored Only signs removed. Oh and a whole bunch of funny shit happens in the middle. Like Klansmen becoming comic relief. Yep. That’s exactly how Jim Crow was.
The question isn’t whether Texas has created jobs, it clearly has. The question is: How, and at what cost?
Perry said in a recent interview on Fox that it’s a simple formula: Few government regulations, severe limitations on the right to sue and low taxation. Again, Perry’s right. Do those things and businesses will come to the state and create jobs. What he didn’t mention was what, other job creation, happens when you give business everything it wants.
Corporate responsibility and compliance with law are inconvenient. Making a mistake and getting sued for it is expensive. So Perry, his appointees and allies have enacted tort “reform” so draconian that now, businesses are free to do whatever they want to their employees and consumers literally without consequence. New laws and radical right-wing judges (many of them appointed by Perry) have not “limited” lawsuits, but effectively prevented entire classes of people from seeking justice of any kind.
Today, even if a jury awards you damages against a corporation, there’s about an 87% chance that the all-Republican Texas Supreme Court (five of whose nine justices were appointed by Perry) will take it away from you, regardless of what the law says.
If you don’t want to read the whole thing, here’s the short answer: EVIL.
To wit, 44 percent of Social Security recipients, 41 percent of military veterans, 43 percent of unemployment recipients, 40 percent of Medicare recipients, 43 percent of college Pell Grant recipients and 27 percent of welfare recipients all said they had never used a government social program.
This reminds me of all those Tea Party signs that were like “Tell the government to get its hands off my Medicare!”
Related: while idly vanity-Googling myself, I found a military forum where they’d posted my thing about why drug testing for welfare is a bad idea. The guy who posted it was like, “Well it’s not really ‘their’ [welfare recipients’] money, it’s other people’s money.” So is your salary, dude!!!
“In fact, a spokesman for The Response has said that while non-Christians will be welcomed at the rally, they will be urged to “seek out the living Christ.” Allan Parker, a right-wing activist who participated in an organizing conference call for the event, declared in an email bearing the official Response logo that including non-Christians in the event “would be idolatry of the worst sort.” Perry told James Dobson that the rally was necessary because Americans have “turned away from God.”—Fact Sheet: Gov. Rick Perry’s Extremist Allies | Right Wing Watch (via robot-heart-politics)
“And they hate America with equal passion. And they hate democracy. They hate freedom of speech, they hate freedom of association. So what Muslims and liberals share together is this hatred of the United States, this hatred of classical American values, this hatred of the Judeo-Christian values system. And the illustration of the way in which Muslims hate democracy just as much as “regressives” do … I’m not saying “as much” because Muslims are willing to go much further in their opposition to democracy than Democrats are. They’ll try to shut you down, they’ll try to engage in electoral fraud, they will try to use intimidation, they will try to use the courts, they will try to shout you down, but so far they haven’t taken to killing people.”—Bryan Fischer (via Only Difference Between Liberals and Terrorists Is That “So Far [Liberals] Haven’t Taken to Killing People” | Right Wing Watch)
As political and social protests grip the Middle East, are growing in Europe and a riot exploded in north London this weekend, here’s a sad truth, expressed by a Londoner when asked by a television reporter: Is rioting the correct way to express your discontent? “Yes,” said the young man. “You wouldn’t be talking to me now if we didn’t riot, would you?”
The TV reporter from Britain’s ITV had no response. So the young man pressed his advantage. “Two months ago we marched to Scotland Yard, more than 2,000 of us, all blacks, and it was peaceful and calm and you know what? Not a word in the press. Last night a bit of rioting and looting and look around you.”
I am scared, and there is nothing I can do about it.
It is already hard for Normal People to find those who understand them and I can see why since Normal People are so unreliable.
But for the Weird, that difficulty is even harder
Because you aren’t just looking for a person who can understand you on a personal level. You’re looking for people who can understand an entirely different way of thought
I have already found those who do not want to even hear of the autism because it makes them uncomfortable to learn about how normal they really are. This has made my frustration even worse because it shows me the level of apathy that Normals can have.
That’s not the part I really mind though. It’s Normal. I can handle it most of the time. But because of it, I begin to feel…
Like all the normals are below me That I do not have to pay any attention to their problems. That even though I have almost all the answers, even though I am useful, that even though it’s a nice thing as a basic respect for them as a human to help them with problems if you have the power to, that they should not ever deserve any of that unless they can help me.
That I am far higher, that I am better, that they are useless and that I should not help them because… why should I? They can’t help me! They can never help me with my own damn problems why should I care about theirs?
I have to fight these thoughts. I have to remind myself that even though they might be normal, it’s not their fault. It’s not their fault that they can’t understand. They were born normal, raised normal, never dealing with things outside of the normal. I have to remind myself that their inability to understand is something I should pity rather than become frustrated at.
Fighting these thoughts of superiority becomes hard. It becomes real hard sometimes. I don’t like thinking that way because if I do, I’ll become a monster….I don’t want to be a monster. I’m scared of being a monster.
I mean, Ainee says that now it won’t happen because I’ve gotten much better, but I can’t believe it myself on an internal level. I can only see myself using underhanded methods to get whatever it is I want.
And as the interactions become more numerous with Normals, I have to fight the thoughts more and I have to hide more often. It just… makes me… so…frustrated. All the time And then we return to the start of this vicious cycle.
I am so frustrated all the time because of Normals. Now Who is going to help me stop being frustrated? Not Normal people! They can’t help! They’re below me! NO! They must be pitied.
More frustration. Now who will help? Not them! They are useless! No!
More frustration and pity and anger fights in my mind. A vicious cycle that seems to repeat every 2 weeks and is currently the cause of most of my breakdowns that I am so afraid of having.
And when I tell people this, all they can say is “I hope it gets better”, “I’m sorry”, “That sucks”, and a wide variety of other statements of clever normal ways to make themselves feel as if they’ve accomplished something to ease the burden
But in the end, it has not. They aren’t easing my burden… they’re easing theirs. And even when I tell them what they will say in advance, they don’t know what else to say. How can they? They’re normal! And so I must simply relent and resign myself to the silent and useless help of most.
Almost everyone will listen. Listening is not unique. Listening is not accomplishing anything when I am trying to find solutions to make the fear go away. But who is there to provide for that? I don’t need people to just listen. I can make anyone do that.
I’m not looking for some magical solution either. I know I need to handle most of this fight in trying to cope with the fear and frustration. But If myself was enough, I wouldn’t be trying to find others who can help. Ms. Kolk helps out a lot and she doesn’t magically take things away, but she is not always there. I cannot always rely on her, nor even rely on her a good majority of the time things start to go badly. But she tries to provide solutions. She is understanding and clever and these are characteristics that most do not have.
Those are what I need for people to help.
On Thursday, I broke down crying in Tones office while ranting all these at hyperbolic speeds laden with verbosity and frustration. And it’s only been one week. Just 35 more to go. 35 more to go.
“Fischer insists that Native Americans deserved to be killed and forced out of their lands during American expansion because they didn’t all convert to Christianity. Angered that the memorial service for those killed in the mass shooting in Tucson included a Native American prayer, Fischer charged that since Native Americans were “steeped in the basest forms of superstition, had been guilty of savagery in warfare for hundreds of years, and practiced the most debased forms of sexuality,” they were punished by God. Until Native Americans convert to Christianity, Fischer said, they cannot be considered full-fledged American citizens.”—The GOP’s Favorite Hate-Monger: How the Republican Party Came to Embrace Bryan Fischer | People For the American Way (via robot-heart-politics)
“Fischer’s solution to anti-gay bullying is to make gay and lesbian youth become straight so they will no longer be “tormented by same-sex attraction.” “If we want to see fewer students commit suicide, we want fewer homosexual students,” Fischer said. “It is a cruel thing to help a sexually confused student walk down a path that leads to darkness rather than urge him to choose a path that leads to light.”
The book isn’t going to write itself. I’m going to have to collect and remember and think through all of the nasty things that have happened. Such a daunting task this is, to grab so much information and sort it out on a huge timeline. Now with it looming in front of me, I feel more nervous than I should be.
Of course, if I listened to that nervousness every time I didn’t want to do something, I wouldn’t even be this far. Memories away!
“According to Fischer, Muslims deserve no First Amendment rights: “Islam has no fundamental First Amendment claims, for the simple reason that it was not written to protect the religion of Islam. Islam is entitled only to the religious liberty we extend to it out of courtesy.” Since the religious rights of Muslims are only temporary and can be rescinded, he contends, “Muslims have no First Amendment right to build mosques in America. They have that privilege at the moment, but it is a privilege that can be revoked.” He instead believes that the Founding Fathers only wanted to extend rights to different Protestant denominations, and bizarrely justifies his argument by citing proposed amendments that were rejected by the drafters of the Constitution.”—The GOP’s Favorite Hate-Monger: How the Republican Party Came to Embrace Bryan Fischer | People For the American Way (via robot-heart-politics)
Sixty-two percent of Americans think the bill that raises the federal’s debt ceiling through the year 2013 and makes major cuts in government spending benefits the rich at the expense of the poor and middle class, according to a CNN/ORC poll released on Monday.
Only 27 percent say that the debt ceiling deal treats all classes fairly and 11 percent have no opinion.
The poll (PDF) also found that 47 percent of Americans rate the economy “pretty badly” and 28 percent rate it “very badly.” Only 23 percent think the economy is going “fairly well” and a meager 1 percent say it is going “very well.”
In other words, 62 percent of Americans are starting to realize something in the milk ain’t clean.
“For a number of years, Michele Bachmann’s personal website had a list of books she recommended people read. … I was looking over the list and noticed this biography of [Robert E.] Lee by [Steven] Wilkins. [I had] never heard of Wilkins and started looking at who he was. And frankly couldn’t believe that she was recommending this book. … It is an objectively pro-slavery book and one of the most startling things I learned about her in this piece.”—On today’s Fresh Air, New Yorker writer Ryan Lizza talks about the books, writers and beliefs that have shaped Michele Bachmann. (via nprfreshair)
Having sex doesn’t automatically yield babies. Sex must occur shortly prior to or during ovulation for babies to happen. Considering sperm can survive around 5 days in a vagina, and most people with a uterus have ~30-day cycles, That means most of the time, having sex will not produce a baby. Even without using any sort of contraceptive.
Some people don’t ovulate every cycle or even most cycles. Some people have extremely irregular cycles and so may only have a few cycles a year. Many people take drugs like Clomid to stimulate ovulation so that they can even attempt to get pregnant the “old fashioned way.” Again, if you aren’t ovulating, you can have as much sex as you like, with or without protection, and you’ll never make a baby.
Some people with penises do not produce high enough quality sperm to make fertilization likely.
Some people have anatomical issues that prevent sperm from reaching eggs, so no eggs can be fertilized.
Things like vasectomies or tubal ligations make reproduction through sex—with or without other forms of birth control—nearly impossible.
Barrier contraceptives like condoms and diaphragms are fairly effective at preventing babies. If sperm can’t make it to an egg, no babies can happen.
If you are looking for more reliable methods of birth control, look to the pill, the shot, the ring, the patch, IUDs, or implants. These things work in different ways, but with perfect use, they are all nearly 100% reliable. (Most oral contraceptives today have a failure rate of .3% with perfect use.)
If you use modern birth control correctly, and if you use two forms of contraception with less reliable methods like condoms—which are still 98% effective for male condoms and 95% effective for female condoms—you’re more likely to win the lottery than you are to make a baby. (Okay, so that’s not an exact statistic, but it’s pretty freaking close.)
So, yes, no sex at all is obviously the most reliable form of birth control, BUT having sex doesn’t automatically make a baby. In fact, the overwhelming majority of the time, it doesn’t. For those of you who insist on harping on, “BUT SEX MAKES BABY!” can I just encourage you to please, please, please take a deep breath and understand that sex isn’t always a direct road to baby town. Making good decisions and understanding how your body works go a long way toward mitigating the risk that a sexual encounter will result in pregnancy.